Anger doesn’t appear out of nowhere. At its root it springs from two sources:
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Blocked goals—I can’t get what I want.
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Unmet expectations—I don’t receive the outcome I thought I deserved.
A Generation Without Restraint
We have raised children to believe they can have anything they desire. Parents removed discipline, correction, and the training that builds self-control. Childhood goals went largely unblocked, so our sons and daughters grew up assuming the world would bend to their will.
But adulthood is different. The workplace, relationships, and the marketplace refuse to reward unfiltered selfishness. People don’t always agree, conform, or cooperate. When the real world resists, frustration ignites into rage.
Empty Promises of Self-Expression
Culture tells young people that unlimited freedom and self-expression will lead to fulfillment. Whether through sexual experimentation, gender rebellion, or unrestrained ambition, many chase satisfaction only to discover that happiness never arrives.
Why? Because we cannot overturn God’s design and still find peace. Attempts to redefine identity apart from the Creator lead to guilt, shame, and deeper anger—not joy.
The Real Problem Isn’t Christianity
Rather than recognize misguided thinking or failed upbringing, society blames the Christian worldview for their discontent. God’s truth is labeled oppressive when in reality it is life-giving. The real tragedy is that many Christian parents quietly absorbed the culture’s lie that people are basically good and merely need self-esteem.
Scripture tells a different story:
“All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23)
Human nature is not a blank slate; it is bent toward sin. Any parent who has dealt with a defiant toddler knows this firsthand.
God’s Blueprint for Parenting
The Bible calls parents to correct that sinful bent so children learn to honor father and mother—the fifth commandment that paves the way to honoring God Himself. “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
Biblical parenting means training children to live by God’s objective standard of goodness. That requires courage: believing the Bible, resisting cultural pressure, and shaping character around God’s truth rather than a child’s whims.
A Call to Fathers
Men, the next generation needs fathers who discipline with love, teach God’s Word faithfully, and model obedience to Christ. If we fail, we will keep seeing angry, directionless adults who reject God and harm others.
Let’s repent of passive parenting, reclaim God’s standard, and raise children who honor Him—because the future of our homes, churches, and society depends on it.
